Author: Remy O'Ryan

Hi there, My friends call me Remy. I am a middle aged divorcee that has decided not to walk the path other people decided to set down for me. I have gained the most strength in my life from my failures. Resilience is a very powerful attribute if you can manage it, I am still building mine up but stick with me and we can forge ahead together.

Autonomy BluePrint Yellow Belt – Clouded Perception

AUTONOMY BLUEPRINT YELLOW BELT

The next step along our pathway to autonomy brings us to the topic of connection. Immediately you may be thinking of an emotional connection between two people but that is just the tip of the iceberg that we are going to uncover as part of the yellow belt. The starting topic for today is the separated means by which a child lives; by separated I mean the way in which they act in regard to their own emotions and their immediate perception of the world around them. It is almost as if they live in their own little cocoon and everything else that is not them is supposed to serve them. A lot of us will use phrases like spoilt or selfish when dealing with such occurrences but I think that is a bit harsh, stick with me and let me explain why. If you have had the pleasure of […]

Tournament species vs Pair Bonding Humans: Social Hierarchy series

Tournament species vs pair bonded humans

Congratulations for making it here. Quite a few of you have taken quite a few different pathways. My journey to understand a marriage breakdown led me here. I was trying to understand the social hierarchy I live in. In this post I share a recent revelation that the social hierarchy I live in (which is probably identical to yours if you live in a western culture too) is dominated by the battle of two cultures. Tournament species vs Pair Bonding humans is also a battle of freedom vs captivity depending on which side of the “fence of common sense” you reside on. First up I think we need to spend a few minutes to enforce just why this conversation is needed. I am on a mission to understand the human condition so I can gain my autonomy over it. Like it or not one of the most dominantly factors or […]

Great Awakening Definition: For Alex

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Remember when you are a young child and you were uninhibited enough ponder the big questions in life such as Who am I? What am I? Why am I here? What is my purpose? What is life? What is existence? Remember also when you got to that age where you were bold enough to actually start asking people as well. What happened? What did that innocent, curious and wisdom seeking little kid go? In this article, which is ultimately going to lead to a great awakening definition; we are going to take a quick journey back to that feeling of existential yearning and then circle back on ourselves today in order to contemplate the journey between. First up we need to explore all the many contexts in which you may be familiar with the word Awakening. I will try to be quick so that we can get back to the […]

40th Birthday Gifts for Men – Help him transition into the second half

HAPPY 40th BIRTHDAY GIFT

The topic “40th birthday gifts for men” seems innocuous on face value but if you have never been a man or never straddled that 40-year-old hurdle you won’t fathom the importance. Let me enlighten you. To really understand the importance of the fortieth we may have to get a bit philosophical but don’t be scared. For a start (whether it be conscious or unconscious) the 40-year-old mark signifies to a man the end of his uphill journey in life and the start of the downhill stretch. Don’t underestimate just how important this revelation is to a person’s mind frame. Women have a very well publicised and fretted over period of menopause to signify this occasion. Men don’t. Whilst some doctors do advocate a male equivalent (the Andropause) I would have to say the jury is still out. I do believe that men go through a transformation around the age of […]

Three Awesome 50th Birthday Gifts Men Will Treasure

50TH BIRTHDAY GIFTS FOR MEN

The big FIVE-0 isn’t something to be sneezed at. Congratulations is in order. Plus a special gift to mark the occasion I think. Stick with me as I share with you three 50th birthday gifts men will wish they had bought for themselves; decades ago. One thing that I always do when I am buying a gift for someone is try to give them something that you think they will like but something that they would probably never buy themselves. There could be dozens of different reasons why such a person wouldn’t buy such a present for themselves so let’s not bother with the details. I was down the golf club last weekend and was chatting to a bunch of the lads (as you do) when I seized the opportunity to ask them all what I should buy myself for my 50th birthday. For me the challenge wasn’t to get […]

Id Ego Superego definition; It’s use and analogy to explain your ego

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Hello. I want to introduce to you a concept that Sigmund Freud used to explain among plenty of other things Narcissistic ideals. Here I aim to give you the id, ego, superego definition but also the premise to how useful it can be to help you achieve your autonomy. First up let me say that some part of this concept are very detailed and I don’t claim to be an expert. I plan to limit the level to detail to that which is useful to someone reading about it for the first time and wanting to use it as a catalyst for internal growth. This is not intended to substitute for a psychology lecture. Next I want to congratulate you for pursuing internal growth. We live in a culture that is extremely focused on creating distractions for you. Sometimes unplugging from the distractions and a few internal reflections work wonders. […]