Month: October 2018

Id Ego Superego definition; It’s use and analogy to explain your ego

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Hello. I want to introduce to you a concept that Sigmund Freud used to explain among plenty of other things Narcissistic ideals. Here I aim to give you the id, ego, superego definition but also the premise to how useful it can be to help you achieve your autonomy. First up let me say that some part of this concept are very detailed and I don’t claim to be an expert. I plan to limit the level to detail to that which is useful to someone reading about it for the first time and wanting to use it as a catalyst for internal growth. This is not intended to substitute for a psychology lecture. Next I want to congratulate you for pursuing internal growth. We live in a culture that is extremely focused on creating distractions for you. Sometimes unplugging from the distractions and a few internal reflections work wonders. […]

Who is Mike Pence; Rules that stretch beyond the political collective?

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So recently I was watching YouTube with my kids when the channel they were watching (which is a Fortnite online gaming channel) was talking about the Mike Pence Rules. I asked Who is Mike Pence? No one knew but the moral behind the conversation was interesting. This YouTuber (a married man, very popular with millions of subscribers) had elected to make his channel hosts and on-screen people all male. He will not live stream alongside women. He had jumped onto the Mike Pence bandwagon. Naturally I had to know more and did my research, here is what I found out. The rules themselves go something like this Man in power at work will not meet with a female one-on-one either in a work environment (office) or in a work social event (lunch/dinner). This includes mentoring relationships, work meetings, discussions etc. Of course the short term ramifications are a woman’s ability […]

Building Self Esteem Back Up To Normal Levels- Several Ideas

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When I started this site it was all about divorce recovery but it has grown into so much more than that. Building self-esteem back up again is a key part of divorce recovery but it is also a very important part of every ones life at some point or another. Wouldn’t it be nice if we didn’t all wait for a crisis to work on our inner health. What is Self esteem I don’t buy into most of the psychology of clinical terminology you may see elsewhere. I much prefer to keep things very simple and re-frame everything into something that a two-year old would understand. For me, self-esteem is simply that overall feeling of good or bad to get about yourself. It is not tied to any actions, it is not tied to any events or external things at it. It is what is left over, the opinion of […]

How To Live With A Narcissist & How to Turn Things Around

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Following on from my very popular post about marriage to a covert narcissist our conversation now migrates to the topic of “How to live with a narcissist.” I am trying to make this post a big more action focused. First up the terminology: you won’t find the word victim here, it has far too many negatives – I am going to use the word target instead. I would encourage you to also start shifting your focus in such a small way – the language you use will steer the pattern of thinking that follows. The Aim: regardless of your situation and how well versed you are in this context I want you to implement one thing for me please. Be original. Do not generically swap out one problem for another. Tackle your own problem at its source – You. Trying to control a narcissist or change his/her behavior is a […]

Oops! I created my Feminized Husband

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It wasn’t until my oldest daughter started dating a low-life and I had to give her relationship advice that I realized I had trained my ex-husbands so hard (and far too successfully) into being the men I wanted them to be that they became the overly feminized husbands I despised. I am going through a massive period of self reflection and learning as part of my Yoga training. Here is a topic that came up in a conversation at my book club a few weeks back. We are a circle of middle age women, mostly divorced moms past our primes now but still with it. Anyway, quite a few of us have teenage daughters and the conversations often turn to the teenage boys, relationships and also the type of advice we give our daughters as opposed to the advice we were given. It is amazing what revelations can be made […]

Stories of Midlife Crisis: For Women

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Hello there. Margery here bringing you yet another post, this time with plenty of stories about midlife crisis: For Women. Remy did his midlife crisis post about men, this one is going to be something very different. As usual, we women do things with a lot more multitasking than men – even when it comes to midlife crisis. First up, the term midlife crisis is traditionally only used as a male thing. Let me change that right here and right now. Modern women have just a hard time as men do, we call it menopause and try to make out that it is a medical thing but something a lot more happened to a woman when she gets to a certain age around 35. Different women go through the change at different times. Sometimes it is 35, I hear 37 the most. So Let’s take a look at all the […]