Building Self Esteem Back Up To Normal Levels- Several Ideas

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When I started this site it was all about divorce recovery but it has grown into so much more than that. Building self-esteem back up again is a key part of divorce recovery but it is also a very important part of every ones life at some point or another. Wouldn’t it be nice if we didn’t all wait for a crisis to work on our inner health. What is Self esteem I don’t buy into most of the psychology of clinical terminology you may see elsewhere. I much prefer to keep things very simple and re-frame everything into something that a two-year old would understand. For me, self-esteem is simply that overall feeling of good or bad to get about yourself. It is not tied to any actions, it is not tied to any events or external things at it. It is what is left over, the opinion of […]

Princess Mentality Syndrome & Feminism

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I have had several requests over the last few weeks to expand on the topic of the Princess Mentality Syndrome. My previous articles were surprisingly well-received: Peter Pan Syndrome in females and Personal Autonomy Vs Moral Autonomy Maybe my posts are becoming less controversial, or maybe the population is becoming less tolerant of spoilt bratty women full of demands and threats. Now you are probably a lot more familiar with the term Peter Pan syndrome for men who choose not to grow up, get a dismal job, accept his servitude, take on a wife and kids, then a mortgage and slowly work himself to death. I think that stereotype died with a lot of the big multinational bank back in the GFC. What I am seeing now is a combination of that Peter Pan syndrome and the fourth wave of feminism into something completely new. It is commonly referred to […]

What does MGTOW mean? An Interview with Mike Part 2

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Introduction Hello readers. I have got a treat for you today. I have tracked down MGTOW Mike for a follow-up interview. [If you missed the first interview, which was called What Is MGTOW?, follow the previous link. This time I am focusing on the question of What does MGTOW mean? I never really got any tangible conclusions from my first interview so I planned round 2. I want to continue on where I left off last time but also try to move on from the What question and into the Where and Why questions. Cheers. Interview with Mike: What does MGTOW mean? Remy: Howdy Mike. It’s been months since the first interview. Thanks for agreeing to my interview again. Mike: No worries. Remy: Last time we met I was asking a lot of questions about What is MGTOW. I have come up with a summarized version of the whole interview, […]

Blueprint Autonomy: Overview, Introduction & Contents

BLUEPRINT AUTONOMY OVERVIEW

Welcome a series of posts I am calling “Blueprint Autonomy.” The aim of these posts is to create a detailed sequence of activities that will lead you directly to a new state of independence/autonomy and also knock down all those invisible barriers holding you inside the fog. There is one thing that I aim to do here which is tried and tested yet rare in the modern era we live in. That is, pass down information from one generation to the next, learn from someone else s mistakes, challenge the status quo, and advance your life choices beyond those that your parents/elders made. If, you have had the pleasure of growing up with grandparents (and you had a good relationship with them) you will be one step ahead because you are at least familiar with some of these concepts. It really is a new phenomenon, the new global society has […]

Autonomy BluePrint Yellow Belt – Clouded Perception

AUTONOMY BLUEPRINT YELLOW BELT

The next step along our pathway to autonomy brings us to the topic of connection. Immediately you may be thinking of an emotional connection between two people but that is just the tip of the iceberg that we are going to uncover as part of the yellow belt. The starting topic for today is the separated means by which a child lives; by separated I mean the way in which they act in regard to their own emotions and their immediate perception of the world around them. It is almost as if they live in their own little cocoon and everything else that is not them is supposed to serve them. A lot of us will use phrases like spoilt or selfish when dealing with such occurrences but I think that is a bit harsh, stick with me and let me explain why. If you have had the pleasure of […]

Tournament species vs Pair Bonding Humans: Social Hierarchy series

Tournament species vs pair bonded humans

Congratulations for making it here. Quite a few of you have taken quite a few different pathways. My journey to understand a marriage breakdown led me here. I was trying to understand the social hierarchy I live in. In this post I share a recent revelation that the social hierarchy I live in (which is probably identical to yours if you live in a western culture too) is dominated by the battle of two cultures. Tournament species vs Pair Bonding humans is also a battle of freedom vs captivity depending on which side of the “fence of common sense” you reside on. First up I think we need to spend a few minutes to enforce just why this conversation is needed. I am on a mission to understand the human condition so I can gain my autonomy over it. Like it or not one of the most dominantly factors or […]

70th Birthday Gifts for Men: Celebrate, imagine & share.

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70th birthday gifts for men can be kind of hard to choose and kind of easy to get wrong. Most men who are at the 70 mark don’t have a thriving academic career or structured fitness regime to follow. In fact what you will more likely find is a lot of relaxing, reminiscing and hopefully some story telling. More than likely about the old days in an attempt to pass on 70 years of gained wisdom. I remember when my grandfather reached 70 was around about the time he stopped riding his bicycle around the neighborhood and really ramped up his efforts to engage with the grand kids (or anyone who would listen). We learnt more history lessons through his war stories than school could ever attempt to. Perhaps some characters and a few of the actions were not quite as true as grand-dad would like us to believe but […]

Great Awakening Definition: For Alex

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Remember when you are a young child and you were uninhibited enough ponder the big questions in life such as Who am I? What am I? Why am I here? What is my purpose? What is life? What is existence? Remember also when you got to that age where you were bold enough to actually start asking people as well. What happened? What did that innocent, curious and wisdom seeking little kid go? In this article, which is ultimately going to lead to a great awakening definition; we are going to take a quick journey back to that feeling of existential yearning and then circle back on ourselves today in order to contemplate the journey between. First up we need to explore all the many contexts in which you may be familiar with the word Awakening. I will try to be quick so that we can get back to the […]

40th Birthday Gifts for Men – Help him transition into the second half

HAPPY 40th BIRTHDAY GIFT

The topic “40th birthday gifts for men” seems innocuous on face value but if you have never been a man or never straddled that 40-year-old hurdle you won’t fathom the importance. Let me enlighten you. To really understand the importance of the fortieth we may have to get a bit philosophical but don’t be scared. For a start (whether it be conscious or unconscious) the 40-year-old mark signifies to a man the end of his uphill journey in life and the start of the downhill stretch. Don’t underestimate just how important this revelation is to a person’s mind frame. Women have a very well publicised and fretted over period of menopause to signify this occasion. Men don’t. Whilst some doctors do advocate a male equivalent (the Andropause) I would have to say the jury is still out. I do believe that men go through a transformation around the age of […]

Three Awesome 50th Birthday Gifts Men Will Treasure

50TH BIRTHDAY GIFTS FOR MEN

The big FIVE-0 isn’t something to be sneezed at. Congratulations is in order. Plus a special gift to mark the occasion I think. Stick with me as I share with you three 50th birthday gifts men will wish they had bought for themselves; decades ago. One thing that I always do when I am buying a gift for someone is try to give them something that you think they will like but something that they would probably never buy themselves. There could be dozens of different reasons why such a person wouldn’t buy such a present for themselves so let’s not bother with the details. I was down the golf club last weekend and was chatting to a bunch of the lads (as you do) when I seized the opportunity to ask them all what I should buy myself for my 50th birthday. For me the challenge wasn’t to get […]