Id Ego Superego definition; It’s use and analogy to explain your ego

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Hello. I want to introduce to you a concept that Sigmund Freud used to explain among plenty of other things Narcissistic ideals. Here I aim to give you the id, ego, superego definition but also the premise to how useful it can be to help you achieve your autonomy. First up let me say that some part of this concept are very detailed and I don’t claim to be an expert. I plan to limit the level to detail to that which is useful to someone reading about it for the first time and wanting to use it as a catalyst for internal growth. This is not intended to substitute for a psychology lecture. Next I want to congratulate you for pursuing internal growth. We live in a culture that is extremely focused on creating distractions for you. Sometimes unplugging from the distractions and a few internal reflections work wonders. […]

Building Self Esteem Back Up To Normal Levels- Several Ideas

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When I started this site it was all about divorce recovery but it has grown into so much more than that. Building self-esteem back up again is a key part of divorce recovery but it is also a very important part of every ones life at some point or another. Wouldn’t it be nice if we didn’t all wait for a crisis to work on our inner health. What is Self esteem I don’t buy into most of the psychology of clinical terminology you may see elsewhere. I much prefer to keep things very simple and re-frame everything into something that a two-year old would understand. For me, self-esteem is simply that overall feeling of good or bad to get about yourself. It is not tied to any actions, it is not tied to any events or external things at it. It is what is left over, the opinion of […]

FAQ: Define Solipsism? Give Examples and Context

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As my site gets older and you guys and gals leave more comments I am getting multiple queries to define solipsism, narcissism, munchausens and other similar terms. These terms which largely relate to personality disorders keep on popping up over and over again; particularly when you are discussing your ex-partners. With all the readily available information on the internet and also with the increased sophistication of the self-help fields I see conversations are becoming more and more intertwined with clinical terms that can cause confusion. Firstly, I want to say that I am not a health care professional – if you need medical help or someone that you know needs medical help then your best bet is to see your GP to discuss a recommendation to see a specialist.   My Definition for Solipsism Solipsism is a personality disorder. A solipsist will whol-heartedly believe that they are the center of […]

Princess Mentality Syndrome & Feminism

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I have had several requests over the last few weeks to expand on the topic of the Princess Mentality Syndrome. My previous articles were surprisingly well-received: Peter Pan Syndrome in females and Personal Autonomy Vs Moral Autonomy Maybe my posts are becoming less controversial, or maybe the population is becoming less tolerant of spoilt bratty women full of demands and threats. Now you are probably a lot more familiar with the term Peter Pan syndrome for men who choose not to grow up, get a dismal job, accept his servitude, take on a wife and kids, then a mortgage and slowly work himself to death. I think that stereotype died with a lot of the big multinational bank back in the GFC. What I am seeing now is a combination of that Peter Pan syndrome and the fourth wave of feminism into something completely new. It is commonly referred to […]

What does MGTOW mean? An Interview with Mike Part 2

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Introduction Hello readers. I have got a treat for you today. I have tracked down MGTOW Mike for a follow-up interview. [If you missed the first interview, which was called What Is MGTOW?, follow the previous link. This time I am focusing on the question of What does MGTOW mean? I never really got any tangible conclusions from my first interview so I planned round 2. I want to continue on where I left off last time but also try to move on from the What question and into the Where and Why questions. Cheers. Interview with Mike: What does MGTOW mean? Remy: Howdy Mike. It’s been months since the first interview. Thanks for agreeing to my interview again. Mike: No worries. Remy: Last time we met I was asking a lot of questions about What is MGTOW. I have come up with a summarized version of the whole interview, […]

Blueprint Autonomy: Overview, Introduction & Contents

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BLUEPRINT AUTONOMY OVERVIEW

Welcome a series of posts I am calling “Blueprint Autonomy.” The aim of these posts is to create a detailed sequence of activities that will lead you directly to a new state of independence/autonomy and also knock down all those invisible barriers holding you inside the fog. There is one thing that I aim to do here which is tried and tested yet rare in the modern era we live in. That is, pass down information from one generation to the next, learn from someone else s mistakes, challenge the status quo, and advance your life choices beyond those that your parents/elders made. If, you have had the pleasure of growing up with grandparents (and you had a good relationship with them) you will be one step ahead because you are at least familiar with some of these concepts. It really is a new phenomenon, the new global society has […]

The Importance of a Fathers Education – To Children & To the Great Family Unit

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Hi there. I am going to address a seemingly innocuous subject this morning. The importance of a fathers’ education on surface value appears to be quite a mild issue but you will see as I unpack it the layers get more and more critical as we get deeper into it. Over the past 50 years or so more and more children are being raised without a father in the household. This has been a systemic shift and in my opinion it has been purposely engineered that way (but that is a topic for another day). What are the impacts of children being raised without fathers’? Are there any impacts? Unfortunately these are questions that I seldom hear being asked. Everyone’s focus is 100% gleamed in on the single mother’s victim hood and the children’s experience becomes jaded by the focus. Wouldn’t it be nice if some of that focus was […]

Is Initiation the lost path to Getting Rid of Emotional Baggage?

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Until recently I would have said the same thing about initiation. What has getting rid of emotional baggage got to do with African Tribe and Witch Doctors and stuff? Well, as with all things in life, if you take the time to scratch the surface, tremendous lessons can be learnt.  We are all looking for a way of getting rid of emotional baggage, is initiation the way people have done it for a thousand of years without knowing it. This is the case when it comes to initiation. After you read this article if hope you can build the hindsight I have to look back in time and wonder how you could have ever missed it, thousands of years of tradition; forgotten and written off as irrelevant. My new opinion is that these sorts of traditions and rituals span a thousand years because they work. What other reason could you […]

When You Hit Rock Bottom New Opportunities Can Open Up That Were Previously Not Possible

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The term rock bottom to me conjures up a lot of unpleasant images. Sometimes when you hit rock bottom there can be an opportunity present itself for amazing growth you otherwise would not have been capable of.  Think of it as a momentary lowering of your guard in which a whole new you can grow from. Pretences are gone.  Paradigms are shattered.  Rules are unimportant & Growth is possible. The most significant image which comes to my mind when the words rock bottom are mentions is the time I have to write a eulogy for a departed cousin.  I used the term “rock bottom” in reference to a major life event of his that affected all of us.  The outrage inside the church when I raised it was almost visible in the air; the tension was that thick.  The sad part to me was that he hit his rock bottom […]

70th Birthday Gifts for Men: Celebrate, imagine & share.

On By Margery Carroll-Rickards
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70th birthday gifts for men can be kind of hard to choose and kind of easy to get wrong. Most men who are at the 70 mark don’t have a thriving academic career or structured fitness regime to follow. In fact what you will more likely find is a lot of relaxing, reminiscing and hopefully some story telling. More than likely about the old days in an attempt to pass on 70 years of gained wisdom. I remember when my grandfather reached 70 was around about the time he stopped riding his bicycle around the neighborhood and really ramped up his efforts to engage with the grand kids (or anyone who would listen). We learnt more history lessons through his war stories than school could ever attempt to. Perhaps some characters and a few of the actions were not quite as true as grand-dad would like us to believe but […]

Great Awakening Definition: For Alex

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Remember when you are a young child and you were uninhibited enough ponder the big questions in life such as Who am I? What am I? Why am I here? What is my purpose? What is life? What is existence? Remember also when you got to that age where you were bold enough to actually start asking people as well. What happened? What did that innocent, curious and wisdom seeking little kid go? In this article, which is ultimately going to lead to a great awakening definition; we are going to take a quick journey back to that feeling of existential yearning and then circle back on ourselves today in order to contemplate the journey between. First up we need to explore all the many contexts in which you may be familiar with the word Awakening. I will try to be quick so that we can get back to the […]

40th Birthday Gifts for Men – Help him transition into the second half

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The topic “40th birthday gifts for men” seems innocuous on face value but if you have never been a man or never straddled that 40-year-old hurdle you won’t fathom the importance. Let me enlighten you. To really understand the importance of the fortieth we may have to get a bit philosophical but don’t be scared. For a start (whether it be conscious or unconscious) the 40-year-old mark signifies to a man the end of his uphill journey in life and the start of the downhill stretch. Don’t underestimate just how important this revelation is to a person’s mind frame. Women have a very well publicised and fretted over period of menopause to signify this occasion. Men don’t. Whilst some doctors do advocate a male equivalent (the Andropause) I would have to say the jury is still out. I do believe that men go through a transformation around the age of […]

Three Awesome 50th Birthday Gifts Men Will Treasure

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The big FIVE-0 isn’t something to be sneezed at. Congratulations is in order. Plus a special gift to mark the occasion I think. Stick with me as I share with you three 50th birthday gifts men will wish they had bought for themselves; decades ago. One thing that I always do when I am buying a gift for someone is try to give them something that you think they will like but something that they would probably never buy themselves. There could be dozens of different reasons why such a person wouldn’t buy such a present for themselves so let’s not bother with the details. I was down the golf club last weekend and was chatting to a bunch of the lads (as you do) when I seized the opportunity to ask them all what I should buy myself for my 50th birthday. For me the challenge wasn’t to get […]

Building Toys for Boys: Use these to build their self esteem

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There is something instinctively different about how boys play as opposed to girls at play. This is not a new phenomenon it has been around since human inception. Have a chat with your grandparents or someone from an older generation and you will learn that the construction themed toys that boys played with generations ago are very similar to the more popular ones of today. In saying that though most building toys for boys go down like a lead balloon when offered to most girls for their play; just like hair accessories for girls will get quickly rejected when offered to boys for play. This post is not about why; that is an entire can is worms that I won’t chime into here. This article is more about recognizing what boys like and using them to build on the boys strengths (building! get the pun?) and using it to build […]

Funny Christmas Gifts for Dad: 2018

On By Margery Carroll-Rickards
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Hello there. My name is Margery and welcome to the website. If you are here for the first time an even bigger welcome. This article is all about helping you find some funny gifts for Dad. Christmas is just around the corner and I hope we can make it that little big funnier together. My Dad has a brilliant sense of humor which is why I really wanted to buy him a funny gift this year, not a prank gift. Dad has become really sensitive around people making fun of him since the death of his wife so I am going for more of a funny Ha Ha ironic type of gift than a prank gift. Personally I would hate it if someone decided to get a prank joke for me. All those people, Christmas morning, all the laughter, all the pointing, that is not something that my sensitive psyche […]